Difficult Conversations

10 February 2018

There is a lot that is not spoken openly about. I have a problem with that!

Seeds of shame underlie this silence in a weird symbiotic relationship. Shame gets to hide but is fed and perpetuated by the dark and murky unspoken, possibly resulting in trauma’s that could otherwise have been prevented.

So let’s talk about it!

Difficult Conversations is an invitation to share in group dialogue about topics that are not normally spoken about, with an intention of shedding more light, reducing the shame and thereby creating opportunities for compassionate relating and mutual empowerment.

In these discussion there are opportunities to expose assumptions, pose questions, express some feelings, consider possibilities (for healing, pleasure and intimacy) and to get practical how-to, step-by-step guides that allow for respect, safety and compassion.

These conversation are not dependent, and have no bearing on, gender, sexual or relationship orientation – they are conversations for sensual and aware beings who are interested in the intimate vulnerability of human connection.

While not exhaustive, some of the difficult conversations I’d like to be having more of that relate to intimacy, sexuality and relationship include:

  • Anal sex
  • Threesomes
  • Spanking and other forms of impact play in intimate encounters
  • Parenting sexual beings through adolescence
  • Safe sexual practices
  • Consent and abuse
  • The devastation of being a parent
  • Bondage
  • Kink and fetishes
  • Human connection in a digital, social-media environment

The topic is almost not important – simply showing up to be exposed in the vulnerability of participating in these difficult conversions is the biggest step towards shrinking the shame that lurks in the fields of our subconscious collective.

Difficult Conversations are currently facilitated at Avalon Ashram on the first Sunday afternoon of every month. Contact me if you wish to host your own difficult conversation.