"Even if you previously granted consent, if you lose the ability to revoke that consent, from that moment on, there is no consent. And if someone takes that control over your consent from you, or ignores that you have lost your control over your consent, that is rape. You must be in control of, and able to revoke, your consent at all times for that consent to remain valid."
When the whistle blows the game is over. Painfully, we know this. Quickie sex is surely delightful. However, when I've created some decadent space to dissolve into delicious love making, a rapid orgasm can be tinged with disappointment.
For me, dancing had a big, fat, juicy stigma attached to it. Being terrified of looking a fool, I was hesitant and reserved. It took massive dance parties with many thousands of people, where I could disappear into anonymity, to awaken the dancer in me. Once that happened I very quickly came to a knowing that dancing was good for me - not just 'fun to do' but fundamentally important to my overall well-being. I had tapping into an ancient knowing that was bursting in my cells to be expressed.