Do your own personal work to heal the deep wounds of your life so far, as well as your family and cultural heritage, whatever these are for you.
In particular, those relating to sexuality, love, acceptance and masculine-feminine relationships (within and without) – all the shame, humiliation, guilt, betrayal, anger, loss, failures that you have or do experience.
Basically, make it 100% your responsibility to love yourself completely and unconditionally without expectation of anyone else.
Recalibrate your sexuality such that you become deeply intimate with yourself – your desires, feelings, sensitivity, pleasure, joy, fears, sadness.
You learn to self-pleasure with absolute reverence and 100% presence – your attention focused entirely on yourself, feeling and sensing into the subtlest, delicate nuance throughout your entire body.
You sensitise your entire body to feel the essence of subtle, energetic vibration – a deep interest and curiosity with zero exception or goal. Simply being deeply present in each nuanced moment.
Basically, make it 100% your responsibility to MAKE love with yourself completely and unconditionally without expectation of anyone else OR ANY OUTCOME.